A question of understanding or a question of fact?

In search of spiritual equilibrium i have conversations with anyone with a spiritual perspective of this so called life.
I was conversing with a friend of mine, she is of the Christian Science faith. I need some answers or perspectives about some aspects of our lives. It will help me understand somethings i feel. I asked her about marriage! " in christian science, are u allowed only one wife?" she told me yes but it has to be your soul mate and if he/she is not your soul mate, u were allowed to divorce and marry again. This is a distinction btw christian science and contemporary Christianity which has no place for divorce.Then i asked how u knew who your soul mate is? I was told it was all about finding a common ground in both personalities and persons. I wondered if that meant it would always feel good when you find that mate. As in be in a state of bliss each time u were with this person and everything just seem automatically right. Is there room for conflict? are u always gonna agree? will there just be perfect synchrony always? new question i sort to know. This was the main question i sort to find the answer to. So i asked, if two neighboring nations had conflict over boarders and one country was dominating, and kept pushing the other backward and gain more grounds, the other country kept on conceding ground until it had very little left but it didn't mind. It didn't fight back. Is this a common ground? in the sense that there was no feeling of dissatisfaction by both nations and there was peace. Even though other nations looking felt it was totally unfair to the smaller nation and viewed the larger nation as a bully. Do they have a right to insist for fairness based on our human understanding of what fairness is? even though there was no conflict between the parties involved. First we need to ask, who determines what is fair? My friend told me, there is no problem with this as long as there was no conflict between the nations so this is their common ground.
So, i related this to human relations. If common ground had no definition of boundaries are some of us destined to be disadvantaged ( by human definition) and always concede? this is because some people always don't mind bending over backward for other people and never mind doing this. Does this represent a balance of common ground definitions concept i was just told about? One person does everything to satisfy another while the other does nothing to reciprocate and the one person feels no sense of being shortchange of emotional compliments. Even though to the world it is by our understanding obvious that this is cruelly unfair even creating an image of one as heartless and cruel. Is this allowed? can we judge fairness even if the situation does not affect us?
So what i am asking is what is the balance of nature with relation to relating with people? and are some people naturally gonna be doormats to some other and love doing it and thus peace prevails? could this be their role in the world? or fairness really defined by equality?
Can somebody tell me? also considering the correlations between fairness and peace!
And if the answer is based on personal understand by everyone, then what is the basis of properly defined life?

Dream

I dream, it’s the world for my spirit

His only place for peace coz there is freedom in it

Expression of will, a void and realization of what is real

In a trance of finding and knowing.

people you love, things you fear, all you dear

Your heart cries: now you hear

Spirit and body communicate

Uncontrolled inspect of when we relate

Pain like I felt of heart break

My world of love, you would not take

The body, the soul ,you choose to violate

Feel and see, they say participate

I see you, I feel it still when I awake

Sleeping and feeling

Living and weeping

The same understanding

Felt you would leave

Was told you would not give

But in you I chose to believe

Sooner than today, I stand in shame

Forgiving is a totally holy place

But I am imperfect, see the emotions on my face

My body wont let my soul stay pure

I am in chains, this I am sure

Pain, regret, all betray my forgetting

Liberation begets freedom, now my pursuing

Hurt me in my soul and left a hole

Reparation a fete only for your own

I tell of this story coz

For the world I am sorry

For lessons not taken

The principle simply mistaken

I pray for awakening

Though it came late for me

I must show how much joy it can be

Maybe you will learn desperately

This is the moral of my story

That one day I may not worry

Or fear that you might tell the same story

Cant You See?

Commit my every need

I just want to meet u with every want

A cry for your smile

Die to hear u laugh

I need you to feel every good sense

While I wait in my suspense

This is common sense

I can wait while you sleep and wake

Smile in the morning light then I lay me down for my sake

Walk through thorny forest

because you heard about birds who at the other end nest rest

Let me see for you

Or I can just say, ill do anything for you!

Never forgive myself

I was at work when the rain soaked you

Or blame myself

Coz sorrow somehow in your world found you

I could have done something to help you

I must get you the new shoe

School can wait too for you

Times when I cant be there,

don’t you see I still care?

I feel I can push mountains,

I can drink up a fountain

What else more priceless

What thing more beautiful

What sent so sweet?

Guard proper so dutiful

No king in his highness

No Queen or majesty,

Is greater than purity

Cant you just see

I might find the words to say the sky is sometimes blue

Just like the fog in the morning is called dew,

Like the lights called stars,

Like the string of colors, or rainbow

About how some feelings are painful

Some things for you I must do,

Everything I feel is about you

I do them for you

Its me, or maybe you just cant see tha..t…………………….

I.

So i say

I will do my best to meet everyones needs, cos I am concerned and I understand. i do not know everything but I give my something. If someday you see me and say, I do not represent you in anyway, just be patient we can all have our own God given day. If in time I dont not increase my understanding enough to meet you, one thing I know for sure is, i will be not be here forever. If after me comes another, he may feel just like you or the like of you my brother.

Dont Give up wanting, find patience, seek understanding and light will touch you.

It is always better than a dark fight.

Beautiful Nights

There are many reasons why many things are beautiful

The moon, maybe because its blue

a person maybe because its you

and when the moon gets full

I am blown witj thougts of youIin the mellow moonlight

I see delight in the hollow of your eyes

Like shadows caste in the dark

You manifest in me in parts

the moon at night, with you feels right

underneath the stars with lights shinning bright

I behold you as my beauty and the Queen of my Night

Its Us

Its all just pathetic

our life, its relics

yea say I sound prophetic

it just that I am being authentic

how easy for you to turn a blind eye

at least take a peek with one eye

oh my, I just must try

to save my world right after I cry.

Destiny, walks right next to me

I put away my beliefs

open my eyes one day in disbelief

its still same as when everyone tot me insane

I am still the same

dose not matter what was said must not give me pain

but I still cant walk away leave that kid in the rain.

This is the time I have been praying

when my thoughts and fears are the new believing

heal this world in which we live in

dont believe its all about the world you live in.

As is still

You see, i have always been me,

yes, asked the questions that u never perceived

ah always your scolds i am told

some things are untold

so, i stay quiet in my heave

watching, let me see what this reveals

wow this is a dangerous con-heave

now u see always in God i believed.

with sway, with swagga flow down this rocky worlds hills

so i pray i grow, this is Godly perceived

love me, coz i love you, my heart, my mind, my unity shield.

Help me, lets heals this, and enjoy the Godly yummies

love or dont love me, dont even know what that means.